How to Help a Victim/Survivor of Domestic/Dating Violence
Ask direct questions gently.
Listen without judging.
Let the victim know how you can support him/her.
Explain that physical violence in a relationship is never acceptable, at any time.
Make it clear that the victim/survivor is not alone.
Let the victim/survivor know that it is likely that the violence will continue and
will likely escalate.
Provide assistance to the victim, which you are comfortable and equipped to help with.
Provide information about local resources, such as support groups and victim services
Be understanding and supportive.
Encourage the victim/survivor to report incidents of domestic and dating violence
to local law enforcement, campus security, a mental health professional, or a trusted
Ways to Help a Victim/Survivor of Sexual Assault
Encourage the victim to seek medical attention in a timely manner.
Encourage the victim/survivor to talk about the assault(s) with an advocate, a mental
health professional, or someone they trust.
Encourage the victim to report the incident to campus security or law enforcement.
Listen without judging.
Let them know the assault(s) was not their fault.
Let them know they did what was necessary to prevent further harm.
Reassure the victim/survivor that he or she is cared for and loved.
Let them know that they do not have to manage this crisis alone.
Important information to ask:
Are you hurt?
Do you need a doctor?
Do you want me to call for medical services?
Would you like to report the assault to the proper authorities?
Ways to Help a Victim/Survivor of Stalking
Don’t minimize the situation.
If the victim/survivor is showing signs of strain, let him/her know what you notice
about his/her behavior and express your concern.
Encourage the victim/survivor to keep a record of what has been happening.
Don’t investigate the situation. If a formal investigation needs to happen, you may
inadvertently compromise that investigation.
Help the victim/survivor preserve evidence and keep records.
Be aware if you start to feel that you must become the victim/survivor’s bodyguard.
Consider consulting with VAWPP if this is happening.
Do not confront the stalker—this can backfire and escalate the situation, putting
the victim/survivor or yourself at risk. Do not make this about you.
If you have been the target of a similar situation, your experience may help. The
victim/survivor’s reaction may differ, as well as his/her choices, but knowing that
he/she isn’t alone can be helpful in itself.
Do the research to find out the resources and options, if the victim/survivor wants
If you haven’t been the target of a similar situation, you can listen and then learn
more about the situation.
Consider referring the victim/survivor to a confidential and supportive resource like